Be Grateful not Hateful.....

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”




I've been going through a lot of changes lately.....not just in life but in my mind.....
My outlook on life and what matters has become much much clearer and in turn I have become much much happier :D
I recently found myself in turmoil, crying yet not knowing really why and inside I was in absolute agony, unable to enjoy and appreciate everything I have around me and everything I have achieved. So I took some time out. Just four days, but these four days have made all the difference. I spent these four days with my mummy, the most amazing woman in the world.....who understands exactly what life is about and because of this, she is the most confident, happy and content woman I know, I've always admired this but never thought I could achieve it, but I think and hope I am on my way.....
During these four days, I wrote many songs that healed me a great deal but the main thing that really helped was......
My mother told me to write down all the things that make me happy.....I began with the obvious things: my loved ones, my animals, music, performing, laughing, nutella :D......and then I felt my pen take over and I was filling pages and pages with numerous things that made me happy, and just by writing them I felt happier and now every time I read them I feel happy. I add to the list whenever I think of something else that makes me happy. Try everyone, write your list.....
Then mothers next advice was to write down all these things, people and experiences I am grateful for.....Now this list was very therapeutic because I found people that wronged me or experiences that ended badly still made it on the list.....because I was still overwhelmingly grateful for all the good they had given me. It pains me that so many people these days are ungrateful and bitter and don't see or realise the good that people do for and around them, they are too wrapped up in their own world and their own greed...... So please everyone write a list of everything you are grateful for. The most amazing thing about this list is you will see a pattern forming and you will see how everything happens for a reason as one experience or one individual leads to another person or thing you are grateful for. The more grateful you are, the more good things and people will continue to come into your life, bringing you more things to be grateful for :D So your list will continue to grow.....
Last week was a wonderful week, I healed myself and I had amazing experiences. In which, I found myself smiling all week. Then last night, I found myself sobbing.....but this was an entirely new experiences because as I cried (frantically crying and shaking and hyperventilating) I found myself smiling, my cheek muscles were aching from stretching upwards and I realised I was crying because I was so grateful. I was overwhelmed. I began speaking aloud everything I was grateful for and these happy tears just kept on flowing.
I now feel so ridiculously happy.....before I was so obsessed with becoming successful and proving the non believers wrong, that my determination and impatience was killing me from the inside out.

However now, even though there is still so much more I wish to achieve in life and I am still painfully determined. I now know that this journey to making my dreams come true is going to be a happy one :D

Only you can heal yourself.....

I feel like everyones hunting for someone or something to make them feel better..... Then this someone or something doesn't make them feel better so they move on in search of someone or something else.....
this pattern can continue for years, it can continue your whole life.....until you realise only YOU can make  YOU better and only YOU can make YOU happy.....
Stop searching all around and look inside yourself.....happiness is all in the mind and you can choose to me happy.....
Do you ever wake up grumpy and you have no idea why?! Well next time that happens force yourself to smile.....the very act of smiling actually makes you feel better.....however fake it feels at first.....eventually you'll feel happier.....
Do things that make you happy :D have a little dance in the rain, do some artwork, eat an iced bun, talk to your animals, look at funny old photos, go to the theatre, have a massage.....treat yourself and smile :D
Whatever terrible things that happen in your life or turmoil your going through.....dwelling, wallowing or feeling sorry for yourself will only bring you more bad in your life.....life can only get better if you are positive and you believe.....don't get upset or worry about things you can't change.....worry is a pointless emotion, it is like holding up an umbrella waiting for it to rain.....don't put it in the universe.....
Enjoy the good things in life, appreciate the beauty all around you.....the trees, the birds, the raindrops on the flowers, the smiling old man on the train, or the heart shaped crisp you found in your packet!!!!! Its the little things in life that make all the difference and can make your day :D So many people walk around with their eyes closed, on autopilot, unaware of the beauty and opportunity that surrounds them.....

So open your eyes, see how beautiful the world is, smile and be happy :D

The power of NOW :D

So many of us let our past rule our future.....
I know I have.....we become angry at those who hurt us yet if we just let it go and forgive we can build for a better future and learn from it. Yet if we continue to be angry, they are continuing to hurt us and damaging our future.....
I have been in a lot of pain in the last few months, being angry at the way I have been treated and I've let it effect my present by living and wallowing in this previous torment.....yet I've now realised that if I keep dwelling, I'll bring more pain, hurt and anger into my life and certainly won't make for a better future!!!!! So those who have hurt me, I forgive you, I almost understand (certainly don't condone it but I understand) why you did what you did and I've accepted and moved on..... People hurt you because they are hurting themselves, so don't be angry at them, hope for them to find true happiness and learn from the damage they have done.

Everything happens for a reason in which case we mustn't let anything upset us.
Every battle we face makes us stronger and changes us in a way that's meant to be!!!!!
Now that I am slowly but surely releasing this anger and heartache, I can feel myself becoming happier than I have ever been!!!!! :D
You have to live in the now, the present is the only thing you can control and if you enjoy every moment then there is no doubt you will have an amazing life.

I was in such a bad place that I found myself unable to appreciate what I actually have!!!!! I was dwelling on how I was mistreated and what I hadn't yet achieved!!!!! I was feeling sorry for myself, when I should be smiling at the fact that I am no longer being treated this way and I have achieved a lot so far and if I keep working hard and believing I can achieve everything I want and more!!!!!
The key is to forgive everyone that has hurt you.....no matter how badly they treated you.....you don't even need to ring them up or go and see them and say 'I forgive you even though you are pure evil!!!!!' Haha just deep inside forgive them and let it go!!!!! Otherwise the anger and the pain you are feeling, will eat you up, make you ill and stunt your progress to a better life.
Learn from the pain they caused you and promise yourself that you will never treat anyone that way.....

In primary school I was taught 'love others as you love yourself, treat others the way you wish to be treated' and this is so true and has continued to be my motto!!!!!
You will find true happiness if you are good to others, as every good deed you do, will eventually be rewarded!!!!! So don't get road rage, let that driver pull in front of you..... Don't get angry in a shop when the shop assistant if really slow, 'don't worry love I am not in a hurry', smile at strangers, help the girl struggling with her giant suitcase up all the stairs at the tube station (me on saturday :D) don't huff behind her because she is taking too long and give money to buskers, the homeless and buy the big issue!!!!!
Trust me, you'll get your good karma!!!!!
You will find true happiness :D just remember, it comes from within.....